Reclaiming Fatherhood, the conference which I have attended in San Francisco, was the first ever conference to address and focus on abortion and its effects on men. In the past, the Pro-Life movement benefited greatly when women who lived through the ordeal of abortion began to step forward and speak up about their pain and how abortion have ruined their lives. Their testimony spoke and continues to speak laud and clear. However in past two or three decades, we were brainwashed that abortion is a “woman only” issue. Approximately 46 million abortions take place each year around the world. Unless these pregnancies are the result of immaculate conceptions, abortion leaves behind 46 million men robed of their fatherhood.
In my upcoming posts and articles I will write in grater detail what I have learned form the San Francisco conference. Today I will limit myself only to acknowledging organizers, speakers and sponsors- because without their hard work and dedication such conference will not be possible.
Organizers and Speakers
Vicki Thorn
Vicki Thorn- the founder of National Office of Post Abortion Healinign and Reconcilliation. Vicki has been working in post abortion counseling since the early 80s. Vicki is also the founder of Project Rachel. Her contribution to understanding better after effects of abortion is enormous. Besides working with post abortive men and women, Vicki also has spoken on countless occasions to young men an women around the country about biochemistry of sexual relationships.
Reclaiming Fatherhood could not have happened without Vicki and the National Office of Post Abortion Healing and Reconciliation.
Dr. Vincent Rue
Dr. Rue is the Director of the Institute for Pregnancy Loss in Jacksonville, Florida, an independent non-profit research & treatment center. Dr. Rue received his Ph.D. in Human Development & Family Studies from the University of North Carolina in 1975. For 30 years Dr. Rue has been a practicing psychotherapist and has served on the faculty of California State University at Los Angeles and United States International University in San Diego.
In 1981 Dr. Rue provided the first clinical evidence of postabortion trauma, identifying this psychological condition as Postabortion Syndrome in testimony before the U.S. Congress. In addition to his clinical work, Dr. Rue also serves as a litigation consultant assisting numerous offices of the state Attorneys General in abortion & family related statutory challenges. He is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Member of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies. He has lectured throughout the United States, and has also presented in North and South America, Europe and Asia. Dr. Rue has authored one book and numerous professional journal articles on the topic of postabortion trauma and has been the principal investigator of the International Pregnancy Loss Research Project.
Catherine T. Coyle, RN, MSN, Ph.D.
Cathy Coyle earned her doctorate in Developmental Psychology at the University of Wisconsin. She is a registered nurse and holds a master’s degree in clinical psychiatric nursing. She has taught at both Edgewood College and the University of Wisconsin in Madison. Dr. Coyle has developed a healing program for men who have been hurt by abortion and has scientifically documented its effectiveness. She is the author of the book, “Men and Abortion: A Path to Healing”, which is based on her research and is available from Life Cycle Books. Dr. Coyle is an associate of the International Forgiveness Institute, co-director of the Alliance for Post-Abortion Research and Training, and continues to pursue research in the areas of both forgiveness and post-abortion trauma. She has published several papers and given numerous presentations concerning these topics.
Tom Golden, LCSW
Tom is the author of “Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing” and has been teaching mental health professionals around the world about men and boys and their unique paths in healing from stress, grief, and trauma. Tom’s book has been acclaimed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and others. Tom enjoys presenting workshops in the United States, Canada, and Australia, having been named the “International Grief Educator” by the Australian Centre for Grief Education. His workshops are known to be entertaining and informative. Tom brings a gentle sense of humor and a gift for storytelling as he draws on his twenty-five years of practical, hands-on clinical experience. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and U.S. News and World Report, as well as on CNN and CBS Evening News. In 1995 Tom created the internet’s first interactive web page for grieving people webhealing.com and designed and started the worlds first internet memorial page, the Place to Honor Grief.
Warren Williams, MBA
Warren has a BA in Psychology and an MBA from the University of Colorado. He is a Charter Member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. He and his wife founded Boulder Caring Pregnancy Center in Boulder. Since 1978 he has been a student of fatherhood loss and the affects abortion has on men and society. In 1992 he founded Fathers & Brothers Ministries International, a ministry to men who have experienced loss of their fatherhood through natural pregnancy and elective choices. He is an Elder at VineLife Community Church in Boulder, CO.
He is a published author: “Fatherhood Lost” Suggested Guidelines in Leading a Bible Study, and the companion Bible Study “Missing Arrows”. He has written and self published many other booklets and articles on men and pregnancy loss including: “Restoring the Fugitive:” “A Father to the Fatherless-Overcoming the Affect of Absentee Fatherhood:” “Men in Sexual Crisis:” “Men in Reproductive Crisis and Recovery;” and a Bible Study for men titled “Missing Arrows.” In addition he and the late Guy Condon co-labored in authoring the Book entitled “Fatherhood Aborted.” Warren has been working on the promotion of these and other materials thorough Care Net, Promise Keepers, and Focus on the Family.
Warren has been a presenter at many national seminars and including Care Net, PACE, Healing Visions, Caring to Love, and Focus on the Family. He has been interviewed many times on radio and TV, co-authored many articles, and is widely quoted on the topic of the disenfranchising of male grief.
Gregory Hasek
Greg Hasek is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Oregon, and a Professor in the Graduate Counseling Program at George Fox University. He is also the Executive Director of a Christian non-profit agency called Misty Mountain Family Counseling Center. They provide individual, premarital and marital counseling out of their office in Portland, Oregon. In addition, they specialize in working with individuals, couples and families who have been affected by sex addiction, pornography and post abortion issues for men and women.
Gregory has presented on topics that include: Post Abortion Healing for Couples: A Family Systems Perspective, Unrecognized Post Abortive Grief in Males and the Link to Sexual Addiction, The Secret Destroyer of Marriage: Unresolved Abortion Related Trauma. In addition to speaking, he has published articles and appeared on television programs and radio discussing these issues around the country. His recent work includes studying the impact abortion and sex addiction has on the divorce rate, especially within the church. Greg has also developed a training program to help pastors and church leaders understand the impact abortion has on men and women, and how to create a healing culture within the church. Gregory is also executive director of Misty Mountain Family Counseling Center.
Reverend Martin Pable
Reverend Martin Pable is member of the Capuchin Order. He has a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, has taught in seminaries and is currently serving in retreat ministry at St. Anthony Retreat Center, Marathon, Wisconsin. He is the author of seven books, including one on male spirituality entitled “The Quest for the Male Soul”.
Andrzej Winkler, MA
Andrzej Winkler, MA is a psychotherapist in private practice in Poland. He had been the director of an outpatient clinic for addicts from 1989 to 2000. He has worked with male groups since 1989. He is the President of the Responsible Parenthood Society. He and his wife Magda are the parents of three adult children. Andrzej is also sharing his counseling experience with his colleagues in Easter Europe including Ukraine.
Roman Catholic Archdiocese of San Francisco along with San Francisco Knights of Columbus facilitated the conference.
I have originally planned to place a picture of each speaker here in this articles. It turned out however, most of my pictures from the conference are out of focus. I will update this article with photos of each speaker as soon as I can find their pictures.
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Posted by Vlad in After Abortion, Men and Abortion, Pro Life
Flying to San Francisco for the conference “Reclaiming Fatherhood”, I’ve had chance to read a real book once again. I really like reading books, however last six months my only reading material was Internet.
I absolutely love wirings of Gilbert Keith Chesterton. He captivates me the moment I pick any of his books, and so far every book I’ve read were the best books I’ve ever read in my life. This time around it was The Everlasting Man- I highly recommend this book to my readers, especially if you can not reconcile theory of evolution with my faith. Just a word of waning, this book can completely ruin your trust or faith in the theory of evolution. In other words, if you believe primates to be your distance relatives, this book is not for you.
In the first chapters of this work Chesterton eloquently argues that theory of evolution is based “wild imagination” of pseudo-scientists rather than on evidence and facts. He also points out that even the term “Missing Link” (aka transitional fossil) that Darwin himself used in a negative sense, evolutionists have misinterpreted in a positive sense. In fact Darwin have admitted that absence of a that transitional fossil is the greatest obstacle for his theory.
Great reading for the times when you wonder about man’s destiny, faith and God.
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Abortion is a single medical procedure that causes so much controversy. Did you ever stop to wonder why? Just think about it for a moment. Some may argue that it is the safest medical procedure out there. Minus the fetus, they would argue, more people are likely to die during the open heart surgery. Why then no one is demonstrating in front of the cardiology offices? The abortion proponents also claim, not without some wild imagination, that abortion is safer than the childbirth.
Did you ever see an entire open heart surgery on the Discovery Chanel? What about childbirth? I think I am safe to presume that such a program or film will never be featured on the same channel if it was about the abortion. Is it because it is not as safe as pro-abortion activists claim it to be? With 1+ million (compared to only 600,000+ open heart procedures) abortions in the US alone this is the most common medical procedure out there. So why do you think we will never see a TV show that would feature an abortion? Is it because of the very same reason a woman is not allowed to look at the monitor of the ultrasound machine? Personally I do not know. But here is my guess. I think the main reason that we would never see such a program is that it would reveal the truth.
We can present arguments on both side all day long, but at the end of the day only one thing matters. That one thing is the truth. People who have been through the abortion know the truth. I believe God wants them to be healed precisely because they know the truth, so they can free the rest of the world.
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Before my trip to San Francisco, I have warned my readers that this blog is about to take a new direction. In fact I have asked my readers to unsubsribe, realizing that most of you have subscribed to my blog because you are an affiliate marketer. I am glad that some of you have opted to see what will I do with this blog.
The issue of abortion and specifically how it affects the lives of millions men and women around the world was always close to my heart. The opportunity to attend the conference in San Francisco gave me a final “push” to consider and dedicate myself completely to this cause. It is fit here to mention that I did not forget about my promise to report back about the conference, but I wanted to give some time to those who would like to change their subscription to my blog.
While I am not a stranger to the cause, and even have helped Vicki Thorn- dear friend of mine and the founder of National Office of Post Abortion Healing and Reconciliation to organize a trip to Ukraine where she held several conferences on the subject, I believe my experience in Internet marketing and blogging will help the cause from yet another angle.
As many of you know, or can see from the sidebar of this blog, I belong to many different online communities. So I have taken this opportunity and created a Pro-Life Community of Bloggers at BumpZee- my favorite community. if you are writing a blog and address the pro-life subject please consider to join BumpZee. Feel also free to join BumpZee and this new community even if your are not a blogger but interested in subject, I predict that you may actually like the collection of blogs to be featured in Pro-Life community.
Finally you have seen changes on my blog. The old name is gone and now it is simply “Vlad Zablotskyy”, and of course with that gives me a lot more freedom what subjects I will be touching on. However I don’t see myself writing about affiliate marketing anytime soon in the future, my offer is still is and always will be open to you. I am not leaving affiliate marketing, instead of writing about it will try to just simply do it. You can find way better blogs writing about affiliate marketing on BumpZee, among other places.
With this new direction I am taking down any sort of contextual advertising from this website since I have very little control of what is being served by Kontera. In fact I will be taking down other advertisements as well, but I am working on donation option for my readers and visitors if they wish to help me out with costs associated of running this blog.
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What a strange request, isn’t it? Readership is the life-blood of a blog! Why any one in their sound mind would ever ask their readers to do so, as it it is there are plenty of reasons why people my unsubscribe from a blog. However, I think Darren can now officially ad one more reasons to his lists: #35- people may unsubscribe from your blog if you ask them to do just that.
Recently some event, and in particular my trip to San Francisco (I will write more about my trip later) changed dramatically what consider as a purpose of my life. Since many of you had subscribed to my blog because I have written 450+ posts on this blogs about affiliate marketing and making money on the Internet in general, it would not be prudent on my part not to warn you that I, probably, will never write again on the subject. In fact I am considering revamping my blog, and maybe you still can offer me your suggestions, I will truly appreciate your help.
Since coming back to New Jersey on Friday, I have wrestled on whether or not to keep this blog running or to just simply start another one. I will try to break down the issues I am faced with and hope you can offer me some solid advise.
After being penalized by Google, and even experimenting with banning Google from my website, the page rank is reduced to 0 (zero). (Just in case any big Googler drops by- I no longer sell links on my blog nor do I write paid reviews of any sorts). While the size of the green bar is far from being impressive, my blog, as far as I can see still shares in some good juice-flow. I receive decent traffic from SERPS and since I have put some work over the past year into this blog I am hesitant to leave it behind.
I was contemplating to simply delete 450+ posts and start from the scratch, I really do not intend to ever sell this domain anyway. On one hand, if I were to leave these posts on my blog but never again write about affiliate marketing, I will be starting off with the number of incoming links to my blog that I earned as an affiliate. On the other hand deleting my old posts to start anew I will compromise (at least to some degree) those bloggers who have linked to me in the past- there is nothing worse than to have your visitors landing on a 404 pages.
I can simply abandon this blog without writing a single post. But having an aged domain is beneficial even though Google’s penalties may have been more severe than I have anticipated.
In any event, it would be wise for you to unsubscripted from my blog. I would not want your feed reader to be polluted with articles that you have no interest in.
I have noticed Dan did a few tricks on his blog merging BlogStrokes and archiving older posts. Dan if you are reading this, I would appreciate your expert advise.
Thanks for subscribing to my blog. You will probably still see me reading and commenting on your blogs in the future, for now I just want to say that every one of you have contributed greatly to shape me up as a blogger.
Do not forget to unsubscripted- there will be nothing about affiliate marketing in the future on this blog, unless of course you are interested to see what am I going to write about in the future.
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I hesitated to talk or link to my new undertakings, however at the end of the day I feel about other bloggers as my family- big and some times crazy(in a good way). So I would not feel right to leave for San Francisco without writing this post.
I will be attending a conference titled Reclaiming Fatherhood. I will be writing about the conference on Healing After Abortion. This conference (first ever of it’s kind) was organized by the National Office of Post Abortion Healing and Reconciliation and its funder, and a dear friend of mine Vicki Thorn.
So there you have it, now you know my passion. I really do not know where this is taking me, but I know that many men and women can benefit from it. Even as you read this, I am almost certain that you may know some one who is dealing with aftermath of abortion. If your have a blog about related topics , I will be ever thankful for some link love. If you are an expert in this field, please consider to become contributor (co-author) of Healing After Abortion.
Now you know what my passion is, and may understand why it can not be monetized, but benefactors are always welcomed.
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I have originally planned to write individual posts about each and every blogger who took me up on my Thanksgiving Offer. However tomorrow I am leaving for San Francisco, CA and will not be back until Friday. Knowing myself, it will become more challenging to fulfill my promise if I postpone it even one day. I am sure my readers will find following blogs worthy of their attention:
- Bluefrogx- this blogger was the first to take me up on my offer. Although there is very little on his(or maybe her) about page- the page exists thus it had qualified for this post. When you visit this blog (and I hope you do) there seams to be a beta video downloader- a tool that can be quiet useful if a user would prefare to download a YouTube video to watch at a later time. I hope to see this project materialize and hopefully above links would serve as an encouragement.
- Case Stevens- the author of Affordable Internet Marketing Blog. Needless to say I encourage you o subscribe to his blog if your are into Internet marketing. While at his blog make sure to check out Article Tutorials and Resource pages for some great tips and advise.
- Warren Whitlock- the author of Daily Warren Blog and Book Marketing Strategy. If you think that writing a book is a thing of the past, you must check out Warrens websites. You never know he may help you to become a best selling author.
- Clement Nyirenda – he is a lecturer, researcher and consultant in Electronics and Computer Engineering at the Malawi Polytechnic, a constituent college of the University of Malawi.I am specifically involved in the development of Computational Intelligence based software for communication networks and other dynamic environments.Of late, I have developed a huge interest in Wireless Sensor Networks and Grid Computing.
- Nazar- the author of Real Ukraine. He stopped by to let me know that some of my pages were not functioning properly. However if you would like to learn about the country I am from, visit his blog.
- Alex Sysoef- the author of WordPress Web 2.0 Guide For Social Networks Age- the name of the blog says it all.
- Sam Freedom’s Internet Marketing Controversy Blog- while I am just discovering Sam’s blog, it had captivated me from the start. While the name of the blog implies that a reader may find some sort of controversy there, I personally think Sam’s style makes him stand out from the crowd. Take a look at his Controversy Blog Meme. Great job Sam! Even though I am saying good bye to “full time” in affiliate marketing, I will continue to read your blog- very informative and with a hit of humor. We can have fun while doing the things we love!
- Matt- the author of The Fantastic Site and Imaginary Hyperspace of Lord Matt. We have crossed our paths many times in the space of blogs and social bookmarking websites. Matt is a great blogger – the kind that makes you think. I am sure he cringed times and again over my grammar, so I am honored he continues to read my writing. Make sure visit his blog!
- Last but not least Chris B- she writes for Mark Houstong Recovery Blog. Mark Houston Recovery Center is a male resident only recovery center where men can find professional help dealing with alcohol and drug addictions.
Thank you every one for letting me write about you. I wish you much success!
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Posted by Vlad in Other (Fom Old Blog)
December 10, 2007 
